“Dear Abby” should have her head examined and her column dropped. I read a recent response to an anonymous woman asking if she should report her husband’s affair with a student.
It’s hard to know with whom to be most disgusted: the pedophile, the wife of the pedophile/adulterer or the advice columnist. The easy answer is the selfish husband. But there is more to this story.
The wife describes her husband as a good provider (she has a good home and lifestyle). She fears he’ll lose his job and she’ll be the laughing stock of the community if she reports his abuse. The wife goes on to divulge her husband was caught and almost fired for a previous inappropriate relationship with a student. And now she has discovered explicit emails he has sent to two students he is preying on.
Dear Abby responds to this selfish person, not to scold her for her lack of compassion for these girls, but to first empathize with her about the financial fallout for reporting her husband to the police. Abby suggests she confront him and get them into counseling. Then she adds, “and it’s only a matter of time until he acts inappropriately with the wrong student.”
“The wrong student”?! You’d think two adult women would show more concern for young girls. Why don’t young girls and boys report sexual abuse? There’s your answer: Adults don’t either.