CEDAR RAPIDS ó In the days when all television was "Reality TV," Mary Lou Massingham of Walker married Don Ellis of Toddville on the nationally broadcast show, "Bride and Groom."
That was 60 years ago today ó Aug. 6, 1952.
"Iím sure we were nervous," admits Don, sitting in his Cedar Rapids living room with his wife. "You hate to admit it. You wanted to do the right thing at the right time."
The 16 mm black and white film of the ceremony, since converted to DVD, shows that Mary Lou wasnít too worried. After they were pronounced husband and wife, Don lifted Mary Louís veil and she grabbed him for a kiss as wedding bells chimed. (See the video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zKExlk0PWc†)
"I didnít want to let him get away," she laughs.
After six decades Don feels the same. Heís never removed his wedding ring.
In the 1940s, when they were kids, "Bride and Groom" was a radio show. From 1951 to 1953, CBS put it on TV. (NBC resurrected it for 1954.) Mary Louís mother, Gladys, became a fan of the 15-minute show that aired between soap operas. After Don asked for her daughterís hand, she got an idea.
"We hadnít set a date," Mary Lou says. "My mother wrote in and told our story. They set Aug. 6."
About 70,000 couples applied each year. Producers liked the idea Mary Lou had played high school basketball. "Back in those days," she says, "there werenít that many girl basketball players in the country."
Mary Lou was born March 19, 1934, in the family home in Walker because hospitals were too expensive. She grew up to play basketball.
Don was born Feb. 26, 1934, at St. Lukeís Hospital in Cedar Rapids. He grew up on a farm south near Toddville and liked to watch basketball.
In January, 1951, Don spotted Mary Lou on the court at a game in Center Point. He liked the way she played, the way she looked. Their courtship began when he asked if he could drive her home.
"No," she famously said. "I came with my sister and Iím going home with my sister."
But Don, according to the pre-wedding interview filmed on "Bride and Groom," remained persistent. She finally agreed to go out with him, they became a couple and that July 4 Don proposed. "I just said, Mary Lou, I love you. Iíd like to spend our lives together."
But, she insisted that a ring wait a year, until they graduated. Then life became a whirlwind until the public wedding.
Mary Lou and Don rode to New York City with his parents, Clair and Frances Ellis. Mary Louís sisters, Janet and Linda, rode with their parents, Floyd and Gladys Massingham.
Before the show, Mary Lou had her choice of dozens of wedding gowns.
"Some of them were supposed to be from movie stars," says her sister, Janet Hlas.
"I wanted to wear Ann Blythís," Mary Lou says, "but it was too small."
"Bride and Groom" host John Nelson interviewed them, Phil Hanna sang and people at home did their best to watch.
"It was snowy reception," Janet says friends told her. "And a lot of people didnít have TVs."
One friend watched at the hardware store in Rowley.
The show gave them everything from rings to a new gas range, from General Mills food products to a weeklong honeymoon at Hidden Valley Dude Ranch at Lake Luzerne, NY. On the first night, as Mary Lou and Don snuggled in bed, they heard a key slide into their lock.
"It scared the living bejeebers out of us," Don says. It was just the manager checking up on them.
After 60 years of marriage, three children (Don, Gary, and Judy Worley) and his successful career at Peopleís Bank and Trust, they can laugh at that honeymoon scare. And, whenever they feel nostalgic, Mary Lou and Don can flip on a flat screen to relive their episode of reality TV.