Recently, my husband and I attended the PFLAG national convention. Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays is a grass-roots organization whose mission includes education, advocacy and support. PFLAG’s mission extends to all GLBTq (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and questioning) people.

We have two sons whom we love well and deeply. One is straight and one is gay. Many families aren’t prepared for the words “I’m gay” from any loved one who comes out. Today, we may not be prepared to find out indirectly, whether from a social networking site, a school counselor or a neighbor, that a family member may be GLBTq.

Your first reaction may have been, “How will I handle this?” For others, the reaction may sound more like, “Now that I know, what I can do to support my loved one?”

Whatever your reaction, PFLAG is here to provide the information you need to understand your reaction to this news, to understand your child’s or family member’s sexual orientation and/or gender identity, and to respond in a way that is supportive with unconditional love.

Now that you know (or even think) your loved one is GLBTq, there are three things to remember: Every reaction is different and valid, this is a process, and you are not alone. If you are LGBT, know that you are loved by PFLAG and not alone.

Our next support meeting is 7 p.m. Dec. 1, Coffee Talk Cafe. In 2012, we resume our normal meeting date of the fourth Thursday.

Diane and Andy

Peterson

PFLAG Cedar Rapids